why it's not healthy to lend money to friends I have loan money from friends and family member and lend money to friends and family member and both has not been a good preposition. In today's economy, it's easy to understand how someone can find themselves in a dark place financially. On the one hand, you want to help out a loved one who's in need. On the other hand, you've heard the stories about loans gone wrong. With friendships rained and families torn apart, also you might need yourself, says Irene s. Levine PhD. Phychologist, author and producer of the friendship blog.com. even if you're sure the asked will pay back, it's hard to know if you should proceed. Remember the advice polonus gives his son. Larlerties, in Shakespeare's "Hamlet," "neither a borrower not a lender be, for loan off loses both himself and friends," According to a recent survey by bankrate . 21 percent reported having there relationship damaged. 20 percent sa...